The opposite of learning is blaming. I have said it many
times before, but I don’t think I can say it too much. It’s true in a general
sense, but when it comes to addictions, the issue of blame shifting is even
more exaggerated. Ask an addict why they started and continue using drugs
and/or alcohol, and their answer usually has to do with what someone did or
said to them, or a circumstance they found themselves in, followed by excuse
and excuse.
In The Solid Rock Road Christian recovery ministry, we have
learned to identify patterns of behavior. The most obvious sign that a person
is not ready to quit their drug of choice is that they blame shift incessantly and
refuse to look at themselves in an honest way. Another bad sign is
justification. They may admit they’re doing wrong, but then offer a long list
of reasons why they continue doing it.
So what are the positive signs of recovery from addictions?
The first is accountability – making yourself accountable to another person.
The second is an act of true repentance. Since repentance is the process of
making a complete u-turn, you will change your direction immediately. And the
third sign is the willingness to look in the mirror, admit your mistakes and
open yourself up to learning.
If you’re in the midst of your addiction, or you’re dealing
with someone who is struggling, here are the top 3 questions to ask yourself or
them.
- Will you own your own stuff? Will you take full responsibility for your current condition? Without looking at anyone else’s behavior, how did you end up where you are?'
- What is one thing will you do to change your current situation. Words alone won’t do. What ACTION will you take today, and will you follow it up with more action?
- Will you tell the truth? Not some of it, but all of it. Will you tell someone how much you’re using, how you’re paying for it, how you lie and manipulate those you love, and any other acts of darkness that need to be in the light?
We understand that recovery from addiction can be difficult,
so we suggest you begin reading the book of John in your Bible, and pray longer
and with more conviction than ever before. Don’t just pray for yourself. Pray
for those you have hurt, and pray for those who have hurt you.
If you need additional support, you can call The Solid Rock
Road at 541-778-8680. We also have a book titled “Follow The Solid Rock Road:Pathway to Radical Recovery, and resources on our Solid Rock Road website.