Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Addiction is Like Adultery

Addiction is like adultery. That's a bold statement to make, and yet I believe I have seen and heard enough to warrant such a thesis. As a counselor in a Christian recovery ministry, I'm still shocked by the selfish, untamed desire addicts have for their drug of choice.

Like an adulterer, an addict can't stop thinking about the substance they love and adore. They can't get enough, and the more they get, the more they want. Like an adulterer, an addict will lie incessantly to their wives and families in order to spend time with their lover -- the drug.

The lover has the addict's whole heart so that all thoughts and actions are focused away from all other things in their life. A fantasy world also begins. The vision and the yearning for the lover is on their mind at all times and even takes precedence over the needs of the children, their boss, their friends and all others.

The addict is so obsessed, he or she spends outrageous amounts of money on the lover and outrageous amounts of time figuring out how to be with the lover, please the lover, and have the lover please them.

This analogy could go on, but the point is, addiction is like adultery in that it destroys lives and is a major cause of separation and divorce.

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  1. I am living this scenario right now. My husband has Combat-PTSD and has left our faith and his walk with Christ. He is totally in love with beer again after a 12 year absence.

    I have wonderful Christ-following friends who love me and are taking care of me while I am separated from him and figure out next steps.

    1. Sorry to take so long in replying. This is the first time I've seen your comment.

      Nevertheless, I pray that there has been answer to your prayer. God can restore it all!!

      Keep in touch. If you need someone to talk to, you can call me at 541-301-3717.

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